Dec 30, 2018 | Uncategorized
You’ve barely (guiltily, mock-begrudgingly) worked your way through the Christmas leftovers, and your skinny jeans seem to be really upset with you. You know you are about to fail the ultimate female test of being able to zip those babies up! There is a mountain of scrunched up, used wrapping paper as a passive-aggressive reminder that you wanted to start recycling in 2018. But you didn’t. You’ve barely managed to steady yourself after the mental and emotional rollercoaster that was “Christmas with the family” – you know – not the Instagram version, the one where you have to buy things you can’t afford, eat food your thighs can’t afford and hang out with people that you don’t really like. The leftover mince pies assisted you in recovering from the trauma.
And then there is the laundry. Don’t even get me started on the laundry.
And now we’re supposed to snap into “News Years Resolutions” gear? I can’t even. The things I have “To Do” overwhelm me every single day of the year, and then I have to come up with a new list of more existential, more meaningful things “to do” by the time the new year rolls around?
So this year I decided to come up with a list of what not to do.
- Don’t drink bad coffee or bad wine. Life really is just too short for that.
- Stop worrying about things that haven’t happened yet. Try to catch yourself every time you do it. Here is a question to ask yourself: In this new year, what would happen if I stopped worrying about money/ my kids/ my marriage/ my future/ my career path? I don’t mean “don’t worry about it” in the sense that you stop caring, no! But don’t confuse caring with worrying. Worry is a passive, sinking weight. Caring is an intentional, uplifting action. Fact: Most of the things we worry about never even happen!
- Don’t discount your daily, small acts of faithfulness and obedience. Not the ones in front of the congregation or for the sake of this or that ministry. But the other ones, you know, the behind the scenes, in the kitchen, in traffic, at the office ones that make up most of your life. It’s in those that God is at work with and in us.
- Don’t wear golf shirts unless you are actually playing golf or slippers unless you are actually heading for bed at night or heading to the coffee machine in the morning. Both of those are universally unflattering and don’t belong in public spaces.
- Don’t be too hung up on potential or ability. Remember the 5 loaves and the 2 fish? Remember the short ginger with the slingshot and the pebbles? God is not so much bothered with how awesome you are, more with how available you are.
- Don’t compare, especially not according to lifestage! Every single person’s journey is different. Samuel L Jackson only became an A list actor in his 40’s, Ang Li (Who directed Life of Pi and Sense and Sensibility) was a stay at home dad before becoming an Oscar darling age 41. We steal so much from our own journey and experiences when we constantly compare what we know about ourselves with what we don’t know about the journey of another.
- Stop saying nasty things to yourself. You wouldn’t talk to your bestie or your mom or your daughter like that. Speak to yourself the way you would to them
- Don’t explain yourself to people who have already made up their mind about you. Jesus didn’t.
- Don’t be rude to your kids. Treat them with the same manners and courtesy you are trying to teach them to have with others.
- Don’t let anyone steal your peace in 2019. Not Julius Malema or Dawie Roodt or the headlines or your neighborhood whatsapp group or that “friend” who always asks you when you’re planning on having kids/ planning on having another kid/ planning to try for a girl/ planning to try for a boy! Your peace was hard won, paid for and given to you as a gift (John 14 v 27). Treat it like that, like it’s something to be treasured, kept safe and appreciated.
- Don’t entertain too many thoughts that start with “I should”. Let go of should. Your value is in Christ, not in your ability to live up to your own ridiculous standards. Silence that critic like you’re that french dude at Wimbledon, loudly and with feeling – “silence s’il vous plaît!”
- Don’t hold on to the failures and faults of 2018. If you carry that with you it will only give you backache or indigestion or worse. Let that stuff go. Pray like David did in Psalm 25 v 11 “For the honor of your name Lord, never count my sins, and forgive them all – lift their burden off my life” (TPT)
Go with God lovelies, you’ve got this and God’s got you! This year you can do the bravest and the best, which is to live hour by hour in obedience, from promise to promise in faith.
Jan 25, 2018 | Christianity, Church, Discipleship, Faith, God, Uncategorized
Does this ever happen to you? You sit down for your quiet time (yes, you’ve managed to hit the snooze button only once, got up before everyone else, you have your crispy new journal and your gel pens, and a warm cuppa – so you basically just hit a perfect mommy trifecta) and your mind does one of 2 things:
It either goes blank. Completely blank. Like the look your 9 year old give you when you ask him why he can’t just remember to put the toilet seat up.
OR
Your mind goes in 50 different directions at once. Now, I am an expert juggler. For example, I am constantly juggling my out of control love for my children with how much they sometimes annoy me (oh please, I know I’m not the only mom who thinks that but never says it!). But juggling 20 thoughts at once does not a productive quiet time make. And if I just sit down and close my eyes and start “trying” to “focus”, my thoughts just run amuck. No matter how hard I try, I am making a grocery list, a to do list, a list of deadlines or dinner dates or a don’t forget list from the minute I sit down.
The other challenge is that in our content driven, content crazy, content overload world, it’s not only hard to switch off to the many distractions but it’s also hard to actually select and stay on a focussed path of spiritual progress. The constant beeping of your phone and the million options of blogs, books, bible-studies, devotions, podcasts can leave you overwhelmed and spiritually rudderless.
Sometimes the fact is that we are so overwhelmed by content and choice, that our quiet time struggle has more to do with a lack of focus than a lack of time.
I have struggled with all of the above as a confessed information junky with a minuscule attention span, and so I wanted to share with you today the super simple structure I stick to to stay focussed during those precious meeting times with God.
Find the right spot: build an altar, the place where you praise, worship, remember, give thanks, receive. Clear a space for your body and your mind. I know you are always last on the list Mom, but be unapologestic about this!
Get in the zone: I light a scented candle, take 5 deep breaths while pressing hard on my fingertips or squeezing a stress ball (don’t judge ok this works for me), and then start off with a prayer of adoration. I often find that my spirit is sluggish to start with, regardless of the time of day that I meet with God, so I write out scriptures and psalms of adoration in a prayer book to lead me into God’s presence and centre me in His will. I have it ready as I sit down to start and I read those prayers, out loud if I can.
Adoration reminds my soul who I am about to sit down with and breathes expectation into my spirit.
Eliminate (mental and physical) noise: My phone used to be the first thing I reached for when I woke up in the morning. Before sitting down to read my bible I would already know how many emails I had to respond to later that day. Not good for focus or motivation. I found that keeping it off until after my quiet time helps me to bring my thoughts in line with the priorities of God’s Kingdom, instead of the priorities of my own. I also have one of those handy little mini note paper stacks. The moment a thought/ to do/ person that I have to call’s name pops into my head I quickly write it down and set it aside so it doesn’t completely derail me.
Have a plan: If you are into devotionals, have that at the ready. If you’ve started off the year with different areas of your faith that you want to study and grow in (think grace, forgiveness, faith, contentment), take out your concordance as a starting point. Maybe you’ve chosen a book of the bible to do. That’s what I prefer. But the best thing is to know what works for you but whatever you do, make sure that God’s word is at the centre of it. Go for quality and not quantity.
Set yourself up to crave the word. Whatever you are reading during your personal devotions must be taking you deeper into being able to hear God’s voice in His word for yourself.
Have a back up plan: because: life. And because: snoozebutton. If I oversleep or had very little sleep the previous night, if I’m feeling particularly mentally overwhelmed or even if I know I only have 20 minutes instead of the hour and twenty I was hoping to spend, I reach for a Psalm. Every year, I pick 2 Psalms as my “go to Psalms”for that year. Yes, only 2. Some days truth be told a couple of bites of a Psalm is all I can handle. There! That’s my real sometimes Mommas! And I am ok with that. And you know what, I think God is too. Having a plan AND a back up plan means I never sit down and hit a blank during my quiet times.
Make it plain: As in, make your plan something you can see. This is probably the thing that has helped me stay on track the most. Think of it as the agenda for the meeting you are about to have with God. I use one of those weekly planner pads with the tear off sheets so I can update it when I need to (subscribe to the blog this week to recieve a handy personal devotional schedule printable for your desk!)). This goes onto a whiteboard in front of me. On here I record what I am focussing on or reading at the moment, as well as who I am praying for each day.
Mondays I pray for my husband and sons and our housekeeper
Tuesdays the people I mentor/ disciple and my close friends and their families
Wednesday is my extended family
Thursday I have the privelage to pray for family and friends who don’t yet walk with Jesus. I also pray for all the missionaries I know on Thursdays
Fridays are for my kids’ school, my church and my country. On Fridays I pray longer, hiehie!
Saturdays are for my personal prayers, plans and goals, my writing and work.
Having this list up means that when I have promised to pray about someone or something, I can easily add it to the right place on the list. I can stay on track during my prayer time as I know every day of the week who I am praying for and it helps me pray with purpose. I also record here what I’m reading, what my memory verse is that week (which I also put on Q cards and stick all over the house) and I also keep a “spill over” list if I already know what devotional or word study or book of the bible I want to do when I am done with the current one.
Record and engage: Maybe you journal. Maybe you don’t. But when I study the bible, I make notes. It helps with focus because it’s an activity that I am physically engaged in, as in I am not just sitting there, I am doing something. And in the front of my journal are the 4 things I look for each time I sit down to read the Bible, and this is what I write down. This is something my mom taught me to do when I was still very young. So, I look for
- Confirmations, commands, corrections and/ or promises from God
- Keywords (you know, those ones that just “jump out”
- Who is God (what elements of His character are evident in this scripture, what can I praise Him for?)
- Who am I (what does this passage highlight about me, things I must repent of or see about myself?)
This is also a handy rubric that our church distributes to assist people during their queit times (
get the explanation here). Whatever “method” you choose, make sure it engages you mentally, spiritually and physically and helps you to develop a pattern of discipline during this precious time of devotion. As I engage with the content, I pray, I confess, I plead, and what I studied then forms the jump off point for a time of prayer, confession and supplication.
If the God of the universe tells you something, you should write it down – Henry Blackaby
Go forth and share: Telling someone what you have gained from your time with God is a great way of internalising that knowledge. What do you talk about with your girlfriends Momma? With my closest buddies we can go from talking about the latest and best liquid blusher (my latest obsession!) to what God is speaking to us about right now in the space of a 10 minute conversation. I pray that you are as immensely privelaged as I am to have such an inner circle of women!
Your intentional engagemet with God and His word will reap a harvest, not just for yourself but also for the people God has placed in your path.
February is looming and I am sure you , like me, had lots of ideas about staying on track spiritually this year. I hope that these inputs will help you, and please share in the comments other tips and tricks that you find valuable in keeping your focus during your time with God! If you are in that babies and toddlers lifestage and a set time of personal devotion seems about as out of reach for your as 12 hours of uninterupted sleep, I have hope and encouragement for you to,
read here! And remember:
God delights in you and is more interested in you showing up to spend time with Him than in what you accomplish in your quiet time. Eventhough in the world our measurement is achievement (think before and after photos, activity trackers, reading the bible in one year, and to do lists) what God honors and has always honoured is discipline. Your relationship with Jesus is the light that will shine out of your life, pointing others home, pointing you home.
The amount of time we spend with Jesus, meditating on His Word and His majesty, seeking His face, establishes our fruitfulness in the Kingdom – Charles Stanley
Jan 8, 2018 | Uncategorized
I come from a family of teachers. Being a mom of schoolgoing boys and being a daughter/ daughter in law/ granddaughter and sister of a teacher I would venture to say I have a good understanding of the frustrations on both sides of the isle (of the desks?) so to speak. Surprisingly, kids are not a teachers’ biggest frustration, parents are! Another challenge teachers face in a school year (you know, other than varicose veins, laryngitis, and burnout) is what to do with all the chocolate bars and “Greatest Teacher in the world” mugs that they receive as gifts.
So my sister told me about one of the best gifts she ever received as a teacher, from a parent at the beginning of the school year. It was a “Teacher’s Survival Kit.” It contained a variety of small and supremely practical gifts that not only made her feel understood and valued as a teacher, but that was also useful and usable. So because it’s a great exercise in showing the boys how we value people (and because it was easily disguise-able as a “fun holiday activity”. Oh, and because you can’t exactly send a bottle of wine to the school and just get it over with! Kidding!) we set about making these fun TEACHER’s SURVIVAL KITS:
You will need:
- A glass bottle or jar – it’s “green” AND pretty
- Blackboard sticker and ribbon
- Clever survival items, such as:
- Handcream (who doesn’t love a little pampering?)
- Throat lozenges (For the yelling. I am not judging)
- Pocket tissues (Best to prepare the teacher that they will catch a runny nose this year, gonna happen, it’s virtually guaranteed)
- Wipes (Sanitiser wipes…because kids can be gross)
- Chocolates (I know I don’t have to explain this one)
- Hand sanitizer (as above)
- Vitamins for immunity, energy, and calm (you can also just make this a bottle of Rescue Remedy, but I found these cute sachets at Checkers!)
If you already know the teacher whose class your child will be in you may even be able to personalise this list further – or get your kid to write the list of what they think might be special for the teacher. Think lip-balm, sunscreen if it’s the sports coach, a pedicure voucher, a mini fragrant candle, pretty gel pens or stickers…
Pop the items into the jar, personalise the sticker and ad your ribbon, and there you go!
Our kids gage what (and who) we value not just by what we say but also by what we do.
C.S Lewis said “The task of the modern educator is not to cut down jungles but to irrigate deserts”, and in SA I know this to be true. Teachers need all the encouragement and support they can get.
PS – Don’t you wish there was a Moms’ survival kit?
PPS – To bad a Mediterranean Cruise, some bubbly and 5 minutes alone don’t fit into a glass jar.
Dec 19, 2017 | Uncategorized |
This time of year we normally take our big holiday. It’s a time of big family gatherings, big meals, big shopping, tinsel, and flash. It’s also the time of year for reflecting on the year we just lived, and often it’s the big moments that stand out, the big highs and the big lows that get our attention, the big leaps forward, the big steps back. But this year I was challenged to take note of the small things. Since breaking my foot I have had a few health setbacks and suddenly small things, like being out of bed more than in bed, like getting along with one crutch instead of two, or being able to shower again, became huge celebration-worthy moments. It challenged me to look for God in places where I didn’t think He’d be. And isn’t that an exercise fitting for this season? Because isn’t that the Christmas story? Jesus being found in an unexpected place! Salvation presenting itself via unexpected means!
The Christmas story is a declaration that small things reveal a Big God and His great Love!
So how can we celebrate the small things in the silly season? Here’s my small things mantra, my miniature manifesto to the minutia that will simplify the silly season.
- I will change my perspective on the small: God’s gift to us is His presence. But this big deal was delivered in the smallest of packages. He became both small and weak, to be with us, not considering the “big” ness of godliness something to be grasped (Phill 2 v 6), but embracing the “small”ness of human nature to change our history. Emmanuel: God with us, peace with us, presence with us. Immanuel is a big deal experienced in a thousand small ways.
May the way I love and serve in the small things this season be a reflection of this big love. That is how we make much of Jesus in this season!
- I will expect less from myself. (Ok, I have had almost 3 months of practice at this, so I am kinda nailing it! If you’ve missed any of that you can find more Instagram. It’s hilarious!). But seriously, this can be a very stressful time of year, especially for moms, as every Pinterest worthy table setting is an indictment to our inability, our ordinary, our un-perfect. I will spend less time on Pinterest and more time learning how to be ok with the me of today. Because deep joy will not come from the perfect place setting, and is more likely to be found in the the deep gratitude you have over a meal to sit down to.
- I will shop less – in fact, I try to stay out of the shops altogether if possible. I will remember that Christ is not a commercial event, but a relational one. Why not bake or make or be the gift for someone? Buying is so overrated and it’s so stressful. Less stuff, more substance.
- I will click unsubscribe. Small action, big reward. Yes, both literally, but also emotionally. In my inbox, but also in my heart. This years’ hurts, the unrealistic expectations others place on me/ I place on myself, that old anger/ anxiety/ worry I carry around. That comparison, that judgment, that painful scarring memory. Unsubscribe! Forgive! Let it go! Move on!
- I will celebrate the small. Ok, so my pace and productivity was adversely affected in the last part of the year, but that doesn’t mean nothing was achieved. I will intentionally look back at the big lessons hidden in the small situations (like the generosity and small kind gestures of friends and family that had a huge impact), the small personal victories ( like being ok with letting others help me), the small emotional victories, small miracles that made up the journey that was 2017. If you look back at your year, try harder to notice the small triumphs instead of focussing on what you may consider as big(ger) let downs or failures. Ok so maybe you didn’t lose those pesky 4kgs you wanted to and maybe downloading (and paying for!) the BBG app was a waste, but your body withstood another year and you hopefully had a few more moments of self-acceptance. Maybe you didn’t learn to speak French but maybe you survived countless hours of homework with your kids without anyone being seriously harmed. Pick out some small victories to cheer(s) over!
- I will practice peace in small things. Because peace is a big thing that starts small. Because peace is the gift that everyone needs. Because Peace is a Person, a Presence that my circumstances can’t drown out.
I will practice peace by partaking in His presence, seeking out His presence, and praying for His presence in the tense family moments, the dirty dishes and the noise that this season will hold.
- I will slow down for small things: Because slowing down for small means slowing down to wonder. Because the small moments sometimes make the best memories. The wise men knew it and so did the shepherds. Don’t miss out on the wonder that slow paces and slow places represent. A slower pace means cups of tea truly savored and kids in your bed in the morning with nowhere to rush off to. For some of us slowing down is hard. But when we are slow we are present, and being truly present is a gift we give ourselves and others.
May you have both big and small to celebrate in this season Momma, chief in your heart being the truth that begs reflection this season, that Jesus became nothing so God could be everything to everyone (1 Cor 15). Thanks for journeying with me in 2017! I hope you will join me here again in 2018 (please subscribe, don’t unsubscribe – hiehie!). If what you found here helped you Momma, I hope you’ll tell your friends! Know that I pray for you and value you!
Aug 6, 2017 | Uncategorized
I read an article recently about a plus-size vlogger who put some body shamers in their place after they berated her list of what she calls her “Fat Girls Summer Dress Code”.
As I have said before, fashion has long since been a way of reacting, protesting or showing support and it is by no means lacking in volume in it’s ability to communicate a message. So yay her!
But there is a fine line between not being ashamed to wear what you want and not wearing things that bring shame on you…an idea that possibly gets a little lost in the grand effort of making a “statement” with our clothes – the statement in this case being that there is no reason why larger women shouldn’t be able to wear crop tops. And I agree, there is no reason why they shouldn’t be able to. But why would they want to? Why would anyone want to? Because let’s face it, regardless of how skinny you are, in a crop top you will always be sucking in your stomach, be reluctant to sit down, have a whole day of being overly aware of back sweat and struggling to get people to look you in the eye! None of that sounds like something any sane person would willingly choose! That is what makes this seem to me to be more like a misguided ploy for attention, you know, like writing an “open letter to” or wearing a onesy to the mall , more than an act of taking a stand on principle. But it’s hard to find our way sometimes, what with so many conflicting messages out there trying to guide our thinking about what we should and shouldn’ wear, what we can and can’t wear, what is beautiful, what is stylish! There is a whole industry dedicated to trying to mold and influence how we think about those things, and even in Christian circles there is little in the way of agreement, with many believers jumping on the bandwaggon with this rule, that guideline, this restriction.
But I think deciding what to wear is ultimately a values based decision just as much as deciding on your priorities or your definition of success is based on your values. The vlogger in question might not even know that she made a values based decision, but she clearly values her “message” over her modesty, her “rights” over her comfort. Which made me consider what values my fashion choices should be based on.
My alignment with Scripture…
Light – as opposed to darkness – something my demeanor and clothing choices should always reflect. (Matt 5 v 16)
Considering setting aside personal liberty so as not to be a stumbling block to another (Rom 14 v 13-23),
Considering
modesty in what my clothing communicates and my own motives in that (1 Tim 2)
Remembering who I represent – not just myself (2 Cor 5)
Always prioritising the inner work over the outer work, remembering that that is where God looks (1 Sam 16 v 7)
Stewardship in context, remembering that my spending is a reflection of my heart (Matt 6 v 21), that I am accountable to God in how I spent what He has given me, and that God values the
discipline of simplicity that is sensitive to the context of my country and it’s socioeconomic challenges.
My People….
I have nothing to hide…and so just because some magazine might intimate that I shouldn’t appear on a beach with my cellulite uncovered doesn’t mean I can’t! Today I am more comfortable in my skin than ever before (a fact that has more to do with the fact that ahem I am almost 40 than it has to do with whatever shape I am actually in – believe me!). This means that I can manage some confident seaside frolicking with my boys on the beach in a bathing suit (provided it’s not actually one of those unreasonable get ups actually designed to torture normal females!) and that I don’t allow concerns over my stretchmarks to detract from making memories with my loved ones. Jeez it only took 20 years to get there! Although I don’t have girls I do have precious, gorgeous nieces, and I pray that
the way I and the other women in their lives talk about, live in and love our bodies speaks much louder to them about their own bodies than any magazine ever does and that they can embrace what they learn from our example much more than from some “body positive” intagram feed.
But that doesn’t mean I must bare all….Just because you can wear it doesn’t mean you should. Once I had to participate in a well known charity fashion show that is held at Melrose Arch every year. Unfortunately (actually no, fortunately) I do not have a picture of the outfit the designer (bless him!) initially wanted me to wear – which was a pare of gold sequenced hot pants and a halter top. I am not even kidding! Yes, it looked as corny as it sounds, and even though at that stage I guess couldn’ve gotten away with wearing it, I refused to, and eventhough my husband and my sons were not even at the fashion show, they were my reason for taking a hard pass on the hotpants. Don’t get me wrong, I have made many dubious fashion choices in my day (sorry Mom)! But on that night and as a rule, I like to keep in mind that I have a husband and 2 boys (one of which is rappidly edging towards teenager-dom and yes I write this with sense of impending doom) and the fact that I am his wife and their mom comes into play when I make decisions on how tight or loose, long or short, revealing or concealing something can be.
“Your dresses should be tight enough to show that you are a woman but loose enough to show that you are a lady” Edith Head
I value quality… and for me that means less is more (mostly because I can only afford a limited number of well made items. This is what my husband calls having champagne taste on a beer budget) . When I was in highschool I had one pair of jeans. (Seriously. I am not even joking. I was one of 5 kids and my dad was a pastor. ‘Nough said). My budget no name jeans were of such poor quality that they quickly buldged at the knees and sagged at the bum when worn! So I decided that I would only ever wear them if I knew I would be standing most of the time…like at chior practice. Stop.Laughing. I was 16! This was serious business. The minute I got my first waitressing job I started saving for a pair of quality, designer jeans. It took 9 months to raised that in tips. Much more than it was about any kind of “label”, it is the pleasure and weightiness of a good quality item that only improves with age (and that you can sit down in and stand up again in without being embarrased) that has directed my spending. The point? I have already in this challenge given allot of airtime to the
consumer trap of more, and to the false ideals of impressing people with what we wear. But none of that takes away from the wisdom and enjoyment of high quality well made items!
My outward appearance is directed by my inner truth. Each year millions of dollars are spent trying to tell women what is stylish and beautiful and what the ideals are that they need to conform to or aim for. Without adequate self knowledge and a deep seated understanding of your worth you will always find yourself reacting to this, on the back foot so to speak. How can we be more proactive, pre-emptive, more able to withstand this onslaught?
In a workshop that I offer called “Style Grace and Presence” I talk about different style “personalities” that people have, that are in fact completely in line with their own unique inner workings and temperament. I encourage attendees to identify 6 words that represent their most significant core values that then becomes a template, not just for the outward appearance but also a guideline to govern goal setting, spheres of influence, styles of communication etc. With a better understanding of ourselves, what we deem to be important, our goals and dreams, I think we would be more equipped to craft a definition of style that is authentic and we would be less likely to be lead astray by what is presented as beautiful and acceptable in the media.I am more than what I wear. It doesn’t determine my value but it does communicate what I deem to be valuable.
She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come – Prov 31 v 25
Faith is a walk before God and a walk before man. And often times that walk is a tightrope between taking enough care to not seem careless but not making so much of it that it screams vanity. A balancing act between owning and acknowledging our femininity and “otherness” and not cheapening that and finding an inordinate amount of meaning, identity and worth in our appearance. If I learned anything during this WearWhatsThereChallenge it is that God wants to be and is involved in every area of my life, even what I wear, and that I am remiss in thinking that the way I approach that doesn’t say something about what I really believe.
It is in the area of appearance and apparel that – if we have the eyes to see it – we can see the most clear disconnect between what we say we believe and how we actually live.
There is no one size fits all here. As I have been challenged I want to challenge you to dress in a way that reflects all the inner awesome that God’s handiwork in your life produces, buy in a way that pleases your conciense and give enough thought to your appearance so as to keep you in line with the standards God has set for you when He made you the crown of creation. There is a place for freedom and there is a place for individuality. But as believers and as moms, I think our responsibility and sensibility around what we wear and how we dress should centre around principles and values that ultimately recognise both who we are as well as WHOSE we are.
